Teen alcoholism is hard on a family. It can strain relationships and erode the fabric of the family. But what if the individual in question is a parent? The lives of children and teens can be impacted for years. If you are a child whose parent has a drinking problem, there are three things that you should do for yourself. These will help you deal with your parent’s alcoholism until he or she takes action to overcome the problem.
It’s Not Your Fault Your Parent Has an Alcohol Problem
Understanding that your parent’s alcoholism is not your fault is the first step. There is nothing you did to facilitate this behavior. Your grades, household chores, or social accomplishments do not play into your parent’s decision to drink. The problem of alcoholism existed long before you came into the picture; so do not let your parent blame you for their alcoholism.
Do Not Confront an Intoxicated Parent
It’s natural to confront your parent when he or she becomes drunk and belligerent. Emotions are heated and the symptoms of alcoholism are very present. But this would be the worst time to take action. You need to pick a better occasion to confront your parent on their drinking problem
You should wait until your parent’s episode has passed before confronting them about the issue. Make sure they have a clear head. Otherwise, your efforts will be wasted. There might even be a level of resentment if you confront a parent while they are under the influence
When you do talk with your parent, reference specific instances involving their substance abuse and how they made you feel. Make sure you’re genuinely connecting with your parent. Merely telling them that it makes you sad will only have short-term effect. To truly make an impact, you must demonstrate how their behavior has been destructive to yourself and to your family.
Let Out Your Emotions
Do not bottle up your emotions and internalize them. Write in a journal instead. Get out everything that you feel. By writing down your emotions, it will help you articulate how you feel. Sometimes it’s difficult to understand how you feel or why you feel this way. Putting pen to paper clarifies these feelings. It allows you to process your feelings so that when you do confront your parent, you’ve taken a true inventory of how you feel.
If you have an alcoholic parent, please call us at Prominence Treatment Center. No child should have to bear the burden of an alcoholic parent. But until your parent gets the help he or she needs, follow these three steps to help you manage your parent’s alcohol addiction.